Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

Barbara Driver

Rape is only ever enjoyed by rapists (content note for rape)

Content note: rape I was absolutely horrified to read this piece about Cheltenham Councillor, Barbara Driver, who stated that ‘when rape is inevitable, lie back and enjoy it’. I work with survivors and have yet to hear one say she ‘enjoyed’ being raped. I’m unclear as to whether Driver means that rape is inevitable, per more »

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Barbara Driver and the idea of rape as something we can choose to enjoy (content note for rape)

“When rape is inevitable, lie back and enjoy it”. What a thing to say, eh? There are a lot of things one can unpack about Barbara Driver’s comment: that it conflates rape with bad sex; that it assumes & reinforces the belief that the psychological trauma of rape is elective; that it lets the rapist more »

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