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Met Police Domestic Abuse Poster

Met Police Domestic Abuse

The Met Police have an anti-domestic violence campaign that tells women not to be abused, and that their silence helps their abuser. We tweeted them about it, but did not receive a response.
Via @thejadedladies on twitter

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9 thoughts on “Met Police Domestic Abuse Poster

  • Louise says:

    Firstly, I do thoroughly approve of all of the other posts that I have read on this website & wholly agree that victim blaming is a huge societal problem which people need to be made aware of!

    Personally though, I don’t see this specific example as victim blaming, but rather an attempt to encourage victims to seek help. It is really important to encourage people to speak up about this kind of abuse, precisely so that the perpetrator can be blamed, as well as the victim helped.

    I understand that victim-blaming can be subtle & this is merely my opinion – others are of course entitled to interpret it differently.

    But I do think that too much is being read into this poster. I’m concerned that tenuous examples such as this might serve to undermine how seriously people take the campaign as a whole, which would be deeply unfortunate.

    • Admin says:

      Thank you for your comment – we agree that victim blaming is insidious, and we feel that instructions such as ‘Don’t Suffer Domestic Abuse’ could be replaced with an offer of help. An example of this could be ‘Get help’ or something similar. The onus on the victims for ‘not leaving’ or ‘continuing to suffer’ should be replaced with a campaign targeting the perportrators of abuse.

  • jemima101 says:

    There is a Northumbria police campaign that i think takes a really good line, it is half way down the page here http://www.northumbria.police.uk/. Perhaps it would be worth hightlighting as an example of best practice? I particularly like the fact they say it is someones right not to live in fear.

    • Admin says:

      Yes, we are hoping to produce a list of Best Practice. The Scottish police do well too – we will add Northumbria to the list. Thank you 🙂

  • Sandra says:

    Ah look, northumbiria Police and Crims Commissioner is Vera Baird!

    • Admin says:

      Oh, so it is! We’re going to add her to the list of women to contact 🙂

  • Caitlin says:

    Oh yeah!! Because telling people not to be abused/attacked/raped is always SOOOO helpful!!

    God I hate this. It isn’t helpful at all, it’s really horrible. Instead of encouraging anyone to get help, it’s telling that abused individual that, well guess what, this is _your_ fault for not doing x, y, or z. And it’s horrifying to me that, in 2013, we’re still doing this BS. 🙁

  • Sue Rose says:

    Stats show that a woman is assaulted approximately 36 times before she reports domestic abuse to the authorities. This poster, in my opinion, is not in any way victim blaming. The police are saying to the victim, please speak out, don’t hide it …

    There are domestic abuse charities nationwide whose staff are experts in hearing these stories and will be there to help.

    • Admin says:

      Thanks for your comment – you are not the first one to raise this, and so we shall bear it in mind.