Everyday Victim Blaming

challenging institutional disbelief around domestic & sexual violence and abuse

January, 2014

Rape & Alcohol – what about the perpetrator’s choices?

Another day, another warning issued to women. This time, and not for the first time, it is the old adage – WOMEN. Know Your Limits. Irma Kurtz, Cosmopolitan agony aunt has shared her wisdom with BBC Woman’s Hour and reminded us that rape is ‘an assault with a weapon’ and warned that ‘drunkenness’ means women more »

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Open email to BBC News online – “sexual abuse” is not “sex”

TW: discussion of child abuse, sexual abuse & rape My original complaint to the BBC about the wording is at the bottom of this post. Above that is the BBC’s response. At the top is my reply: Dear [redacted], Thank you for responding to my complaint, even though that response is multiple levels of wrong more »

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Another Man, Another Ridiculous Sentence

I’m horrified by this story of a man who gets a non-sentence for assuaulting a woman in her own home.  Particularly striking is the fact that “she was terrified and needed to relax” during the assualt and that he’d “got a bit naughty”.  Apparently it’s all ok though as his offence wasn’t as serious as more »

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Eric Pickles – Humourless or Insensitive?

So Eric Pickles made a domestic violence ‘joke’. And although I am pretty sure that there will be some who will try and minimise these insensitive and poorly chosen words (at best), what strikes me most about this is how indicative it is of the casual disregard power and privilege have for the daily, grinding, more »


Britain’s Youngest Mum was 11 years old [content note for child rape]

Tressa Middleton was only 11 years old the first time she became pregnant. When first reported, in 2006, the media repeatedly made statements about the father being a “neighbourhood boy”. The focus was on the girl; not the boy and not the circumstances in which an 11 year old child could find themselves pregnant. There was more »

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The Consequences of a Slap

Sarah Vine’s article in the Daily Mail today is an extremely unpleasant, victim-blaming piece of twaddle. Others have already addressed Vine’s victim-blaming but I want to examine the possible consequences of a slap. Rennard’s victims were all younger than him and held far less political and social power. There are a number of quite serious more »

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Sarah Vine – Women Aren’t All Slappers

Today appeared another article [Admin – Clean Link here] about how women should deal with abuse  committed upon them. This time from the Daily Mail, (I know right? Sooooo out of character from them!) in an article by Sarah Vine, about how the women allegedly assaulted by Lord Rennard, she asks, “Why didn’t the Lib more »


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